About This Site
For the past 20 years, I have drunk alcohol at least once a month. And when I say drunk, I should say, binge in the most unhealthy way possible.
The Standard Drinking Practice
It was common to go out on a Saturday night with friends, and not stop drinking until 5am the following morning. Consuming on average 15 to 20 standard alcoholic drinks. I used to drink beers until about the midway point and then I would switch to rum and coke.
I’ve never had a constitution that enabled moderation. My drinking exploits were a testament to that. I would drink until I passed out. The compulsion would always start after drinking just one beer.
I found it interesting that I never needed to drink alcohol until I was actually drinking it. As soon as my mouth touched it, my brain changed and I become obsessed with drinking more.
But I Didn’t Have to Drink
Often I decided that I wouldn’t drink and I never found that hard to do. I would still go out with friends but I’d drive and drink water and diet coke.
I used to think this was a good thing, that I could go for long periods of time without drinking and not be stressed or anxious in the same way my friends were when they weren’t drinking. I’ve now realised this wasn’t a good thing because it hid the negative effects alcohol had on my life.
Hangovers & Depression
It was normal for a period early in my twenties to drink every weekend and to spend hundreds of dollars that I didn’t have on alcohol. In recent years, I turned it down to once a month. But as I aged, the hangovers and depression got worse. I wouldn’t be able to function properly for a number of days and I would feel a temporary depression that would seem to last for weeks. When that would finally abate, I would start drinking again. Somehow forgetting the frustration and the pain the alcohol caused.
Several months ago, I started to listen to podcasts and read articles of people that had successfully stopped drinking. I wanted to know whether life was just as fun being a non drinker and whether it would actually improve.
I came across this Rob Lowe quote and it really started to push me over the edge to commit to a non drinking lifestyle.
“Sobriety was the greatest gift I ever gave myself. I don’t put it on a platform. I don’t campaign about it. It’s just something that works for me.”
I love going out with my wife/friends to a good restaurant and to eat good food. I loved having some alcohol and letting go. It was one of my favorite things to do. But I realised that the negative effects were too much and I could learn to drop it.
I also started to calculate the amount of money I was spending on alcohol and how it was such a wasted resource. Not only was the figure in the thousands of dollars (worth at least one decent overseas holiday), but it cost me far more in lost productivity. I love working on my side projects but I wouldn’t do any of that when I was down and depressed for weeks.
I also love working out three times a week. When I was recovering, I wouldn’t have the energy or the mental state to go. And when I did manage to get there, my workout was half ass.
Reading the recovery stories inspired me to take action and I decided to commit to stopping. It was time. I was done with alcohol. I wanted to have 10x more energy and not wake up with hangovers. I wanted to work harder and help more people. Binge drinking in the form that I had been pursuing would essentially rule me out for weeks. When I started to feel fully recovered, I would do it all again the following week. It didn’t make sense and I was over it.
My friend who is a Hypnotherapist, Michael Pattinson, also provided me with hypnotherapy for anxiety. I found that it helped tremendously. The anxiety lessened and so did the drive to drink.
One of the things that was common amongst people that had quit, was their desire to contribute to society or give back in some form. People like Rob Lowe or Tom Arnold for example are huge advocates of supporting health initiatives and charities.
Dax Shepard is of the view that we must help others to help ourselves and recover. I have begun to see that this is true for me. Helping people does seem to contribute to a positive state.
This Is Why I Created This Site
I want to help people and support those that have made the decision to quit their addiction. I want these articles to inspire people and to give them hope.
So far it its very early days in my recovery but I hope by supporting others, it helps to support myself. There is a high level of self interest involved in this site, but provided it helps and supports others, then it’ll serve its purpose.
Seek Professional Advice
If you’re looking to become sober, please speak to a professional medical doctor or specialist who can advise you on how to start in a healthy and safe way.
Please note: This website is not affiliated with any organisation, religion or group.
I have never been to a 12 step meeting. My hope is that I’m also able to profile people that have successfully stopped their addictive behaviors without going to AA.
I would also like to hear from you. What has been your journey, how did you quit alcohol or drugs or both? What did you do that helped?
Thanks for being here. Please pass this website on to anyone you think would benefit.